Thursday, March 29, 2007

Hard Times

Many of you have figured out by now that I don't post very much about my personal life except for a peek now and then. The purpose of this blog is to encourage other homeschoolers and moms by offering some ideas that have worked for our family over the years. It doesn't mean that I have 'arrived' (because I haven't) but I try not to focus on the negatives of life. We do have a very happy home school although our life is not always so easy living in the Middle East.

I need to take a little break for a week or two because my family has been battling some nasty cases of pertussis and sadly, I am in the midst of losing a baby, although my body will not go into labor. I dare not get a D&C here in our small city as the conditions are too dangerous. I have some serious blood clotting and will probably have to travel several hours away to get things taken care of in a safer environment. It has been especially difficult for my older children since this is our second loss in a few years. We'd appreciate your prayers for us during this time.


  1. Linda, I am so sorry for what you are going through. I will remember you, and your family, in my prayers. God bless.

  2. Linda, words are inadequate. May it comfort you in some measure to know that others are praying for you and your family. In His Love, Patricia (from beautiful in its time...)

  3. Linda, I am so sorry. Having lost two, also, many years ago, you all have my thoughts and prayers.

  4. Words fail me, but God never does, our thoughts and prayers are with you. You are very loved in the blogging world. Take care of your family and yourself and come back to us when you can. You will be very missed.

    In His Love,

  5. You are and your family are in my prayers...please keep us posted.

  6. Oh, Linda,

    I am so sorry. I will be praying for healing for you and your whole family.

  7. I'm sorry for your loss Linda. I wish you peace and healing as you grieve.

  8. Betty29.3.07

    Oh Linda,

    I'm in tears for you. It seems like we both lost our fifth child just within weeks of each other. And now this one. Oh, I pray that the Father would be especially close to you right now and hold you up. I pray that His presence would seem especially near and dear to you. There is a balm in Gilead. How I pray that He apply that to your heart and body and keep you from any complications.

    I am so glad that you shared this. I will be praying throughout the next few days for your safety and comfort. I wish there were no miles to cross to be able to help, hug, and pray.

    I pray that the Spirit intercede when words fail and that He comfort like no other person can.

    He is near,

  9. Linda,
    I'm very sorry for your loss. May God's grace and peace be with your family during this time. I will be praying for you.
    God bless you,

  10. I don't comment often, although your blog uplifts me almost daily. You and your precious family are in our thoughts and prayers. We are SO sorry to hear of your loss and pray for God's grace and comfort and healing power to flow miraculously in your lives during this time.
    Prayers also for safe travels and good medical care.
    Much love and prayers, DAwn Behm, Morning Glory

  11. cindyholladay29.3.07

    You and your family are in my prayers. I glean so much from your posts, it hurts my heart to hear of your suffering.
    God be with you...

  12. Dearest Linda,

    I've only recently found your blog through a mutual friend.

    I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for allowing us to intercede on behalf of your family. I consider it an honor.

    I hope you take all the time you need.

  13. May our Lord comfort you and restore your heart. And may you see Him as you travel to and from your home.

  14. You are in my prayers today.

  15. Speaking as someone who has lost a child, I can only say, "God Be With You."

    May you find time to rest in His loving arms.

  16. I will be praying for you. We've lost two babies through miscarriage, and I know your heart hurts!

  17. I am so sorry for your sorrow.
    My prayers are with you.

  18. Take good care of yourself during this time, know that you are in my prayers.

  19. You are in our prayers. God's blessings to you.

  20. Oh, Linda.

    I will pray for you and your family.


  21. Anonymous29.3.07

    My prayers are for you. Thank you for allowing us to pray for you.

  22. Oh Linda!
    My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time, as well as my tears too! I've lost 5 little ones altogether and understand some of the heartwrenching pain!! I will be praying for a better time with the medical side this time than you had last. He is able! (((HUGS))) - Deedeeuk

  23. Praying that God will give you His peace.

    I lost a little one last year on March 30th- I can so relate to where you are right now. I'll also pray that God will grant a natural m/c and that your body will heal quickly.


  24. So sorry for you and your family. May God give you comfort and peace.
    God bless,

  25. Anonymous29.3.07

    I'm so sorry Linda. You and your family are certainly in my prayers. I hope you find a safe place that will take good care of you. So, so sorry for your loss.
    Love and prayers,
    Shelly F., CA

  26. Anonymous29.3.07

    Dear Linda,
    I echo Betty's prayers for you and your family...His peace that passes all understanding and that the joy of the Lord shall be your strength and healing.

    I'm so very sorry. Thank you for sharing your heart and all your good advice's invaluable.

  27. I'm a new reader to your blog, which is so wonderful. I am so sorry for you loss. I am praying for your journey and that everything will go smoothly.

  28. lindafay,

    I understand your feelings after having been through a miscarriage and you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

    Harmony Art Mom

  29. Higher Up and Further In has been one of my strongest homeschooling influences and encouragement, and I thank you for your committment to it. It encouraged me to start my own blog ( in hopes that someday, I may be of encouragement to others in the earlier phases of homeschooling.

    Please take all the time you need to heal. My prayers are with you during this heartwrenching time. I also pray that you will find the health care that you need and for your family as well.


  30. Anonymous29.3.07

    I am so sorry for your loss. I have experienced losing two babies also. I pray that the God of all comfort will pour out his grace, mercy and healing on you and your sweet family at all times, but especially right now.

  31. Jeanne S.29.3.07

    Lord please hold Linda right now in the palm of your hand as your are her Great Physician. Please help her body to do what it needs to do safely. Be the Comforter she needs right now, as well as her family. Give her body and spirit health and rest. Thank you so much for the example she is to so many.

  32. Anonymous29.3.07

    I read your blog often though I never leave a comment. I just want to say I am sorry for what you are going through. I will hold you in my prayers through this difficult time.

  33. Dearest Linda,
    I'm sure you know how much you and your blog have meant to me over the past year. I wish I could comfort you in some way. Bring you some warm tea...something....
    You and your family will be in my prayers.
    With much love and respect,

  34. Oh, Linda, I'm so sorry to hear that you are losing a precious baby. Since I read your blog this morning I've been praying for you. May our Father give you and your family His peace and comfort during this time, and wisdom to make the decisions that must be made.
    I've lost two babies through miscarriage in the last several months and it's such a hard thing to walk through. I also know what hospitals can be like in counties like yours, and the agony of waiting. I pray that God will protect you and you will get whatever care you need.
    I can't imagine how people get through these things without God. I'm comforted knowing that our babies, unknown to us, are in the presence of our loving Father and the angels and all the saints who have gone before us.
    The words in Isaiah 43:1-4 were a great help to me when I was waiting for my body to give up the first baby we lost.
    Also, I wanted to share this prayer with you. It is from the Orthodox funeral service for infants, and I was comforted by its words:

    O Lord Who watches over children in the present life and in the world to come because of their simplicity and innocence of mind, abundantly satisfying them with a place in Abraham's bosom, bringing them to live in radiantly shining places where the spirits of the righteous dwell; receive in peace the soul of Your little servant (Name), for You Yourself have said: "Let the little children come to Me, for of such is the Kingdom of Heaven."

    For only Yours is the Kingdom of Heaven and to You we ascribe glory, together with Your Eternal Father and Your All‑Holy, Good, and Life‑creating Spirit, both now and ever, and to the ages of ages. Amen.

    Glory to You, O God, our hope; glory to You."

    If I could, I would bring you a meal and give you a big hug. As it is though, I will keep you in my prayers. Thank you for sharing this, and please keep us updated when you are able. I hope the Lord brings healing and comfort to your family as well.
    With love,

  35. Linda,
    I'm sorry that this is happening to you. I know the pain of waiting for it to happen and the unknown. If the baby is under 10 weeks along, your body should do be able to do it. If it is bigger, it is more questionable. It seems to take forever. I will pray that your body will do it even tonight so that your anguish can be relieved by having that part over. I pray that God's hand will be ever close to you as you grieve this loss. I lost two in a row also, and then God graciously has given us two more. May the Lord be ever near you.

    Feel free to email me if you have any questions on the medical side of this. If I don't know the answers, I will find someone here who does. tncgale at

    In Christ,

  36. Anonymous29.3.07

    Praying for you. I am so glad that you are a christian family and know where your strength is found.

    Cheryl, CA.

  37. Mrs. Linda
    I really, truly am sorry for your loss. In times like this sorry just doesn't sound like enough, you know?

    I know I haven't met you personally but like any friend, I want to cry for and with you. I want to put my arm around you and give you and the girls a shoulder to cry on...

    Praying for you and always!
    Love & Blessings,

  38. I am so sorry for your loss. I will pray for you.

  39. I'm so sorry to hear this, Linda. You are in my prayers.

  40. God bless you and your family.

  41. Debbie30.3.07

    Oh, Linda,
    I'm so sorry. Know that you are in my prayers. Even though we've never met, I feel like I've found a friend and homeschool mentor in you. Just want you to know what a huge blessing your blog has been to me, and how thankful I am for your sharing about your family's homeschool life.

  42. Leslie30.3.07

    I'm so sorry for what you are going through. Our prayers are with you.

  43. Lindafay, I am so sorry to hear what you and your dear family are going through. I will keep you in my prayers. God bless.

  44. Momma30.3.07

    I'm so sorry to hear of your miscarriage. I also have had two born to heaven, as it were...I will pray for your safety, and that, if it's the Lord's will, that your Babe is safe and you're just bleeding. Make sure, before a D&C. I have heard sevral times that a Babe was safe, but Drs. all said it was gone...

    Regardless, we'll be thinking of and praying for you and you family.


  45. Linda, I am so sorry to hear about the loss you are experiencing. I pray for healing for all and God's tender love, grace and mercy.
    Denise T
    aka Heart n Soul

  46. I'm very sorry to hear of your miscarriage. We have lost 3 babies that way. I did want to mention that, if you can get it, lobelia or false unicorn can be very good for helping your body complete the miscarriage, and shepherds purse with capsicum are good if the bleeding gets too heavy.

  47. Lindafay, I'm so sorry to hear this. It hurts so much losing one by miscarriage. They feel so much a part of you already.

    May God keep and guide you at this time.

    Elisabeth (timbuck2mom)

  48. I am very sorry for your loss.

    I pray for your health and safety.

  49. Oh I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers and your family as well.May the peace of Christ which passes all understanding be with you, may He comfort you and hold you close and dry all your tears.

  50. I am so sorry to hear this. We will add you to our rosary intentions.

  51. I'm so terribly sorry about your precious baby. My prayers and sympathy to you ....

  52. our prayers are with you during this difficult time... may the Lord wrap his arms around you and comfort you and heal your wounds, emotional and physical... and ease your worries....

  53. God bless you and your family, Linda. I am grieving with you and praying for you.


  54. I am so sorry to hear this! I will be praying for you!

    Sometimes on the Rock I tremble,
    Faint of heart and weak of knee,
    But the Steadfast Rock of Ages
    Never trembles under me.

    ~ Author Unknown

    in Christ,
    Jennifer (who lost a little one to miscarriage almost 4 years ago.)

  55. I'm so very sorry to hear of your troubles -- and for your loss. I, too, lost 2 pregnancies in 2005. I am praying for you and yours tonight.

    I glean a lot from your blog and hope that you'll be feeling up to sharing again soon. The Lord bless you and keep you...

  56. I'm praying for you and your family. God Bless.

  57. Linda-
    We are praying for you all. I was so sorry to hear. Crying with you.
    Praying for your body to heal.
    Jocelyn said Frodo wasn't doing well, either. She was concerned about her.
    Take care. All of you.

  58. Anonymous1.4.07

    I'm pregnant and worried about how it is going and as I pray for my baby I will pray comfort and safety for you.


  59. You and your family are in our prayers as you try to heal physically and emotionally.

  60. Ashley2.4.07

    I have never visited your blog before, but this short post brought tears to my eyes - I lost a baby in January. God will walk you through this valley. Even when it may not feel like He is there, He is.
    I'm praying for you . . . .

  61. Laurie6.4.07

    I found your blog through another's...
    I am in tears with you...we lost our fifth babe to miscarriage Feb 13th...
    It is an incredibly hard path to walk...and we are still walking it. Leaning on the Lord and each other is the only way we've gotten this far. A song that has helped to uplift me is Praise You In This Storm by Casting Crowns...even in the midst of a storm, I need to praise Him for He knows best...even when I cannot understand it.
    Our babe was 11 weeks old...I didn't have a D& prevent infection, my midwife put me on high doses of Vitamin C, Echinacea, and Red Raspberry Leaf. Perhaps these would help you as well.

    You will be in my hard as our loss was, I cannot imagine experiencing it twice...


  62. I forgot to say that I came here from With Great Joy. She was kind enough to share your blog with us.

  63. Melissa28.4.07

    I'm so sorry with you. I ask the Great Comforter to hold you in his all powerful loving arms. The best advice, encouragement I received when we lost our babe years ago was this: "Embrace it and walk through the pain right into Jesus' arms. He is the ONLY one who truly knows and understands all that you are feeling and will feel. But if you walk through it with Him, He will grow you through this." Thanks for letting me share...(didn't realize how much I needed to hear those words myself right now, for the here and now!!! What a GREAT BIG GOD we have. God bless you. May you see his mighty hand in all of this.
    Practicing His Presence,