Saturday, July 01, 2006

Ten Habits of a Happy Homeschool

As I’ve reflected over the last ten years of teaching my children, a few habits we have developed over time have come to mind that have helped our home to be a happy place of learning.

1. I rise before my children and have at least ½ hour to myself and I dress and make my bed first thing and greet each child with a ‘good morning’ and a smile. This doesn’t come natural for me because my dad was a night owl and I followed in his footsteps. The change was not easy, but has been very rewarding.

2. We have a general routine that gives my children a map for their day. They feel secure and happy knowing the day’s general plan and their duties.

3. Every afternoon I have one hour to myself. No interruptions allowed (unless a child is bleeding to death!). My children are required to be on their beds at this time reading or writing what they wish, but no noise allowed. We’ve done this since they were toddlers and call it Quiet time.

4. I continue to educate myself as well as keep up a hobby. I consider this very important for ALL mothers.

5. I keep four books going at all times by my bedside and read ½ hour before bed, choosing whatever book I am in the mood for at the time. (fiction, spiritual, nonfiction and a child’s book I am proofreading)

6. I purpose not to yell and try to be pleasant when correcting, remaining firm, but kind. I am still learning to do this, but see the improvement and it makes everyone’s day go well since mom sets the tone for the day. What a great and wonderful responsibility given to mothers!

7. The children play outside at least two hours a day whether they want to or not. We also sharply limit unattended playtime with other children. The TV is in our bedroom so is virtually unused except for news and the occasional carefully chosen video or DVD.

8. We eat supper together in the evenings and we speak of worthy subjects. Often the children narrate to dad stories from the day’s lessons. It is a happy time.

9. We have a bedtime routine that includes mom or dad talking and praying with the children before bed and we make sure that they are not sad or angry while drifting off to sleep.

10. One evening a week is reserved for Family Fun Night -- even if it means saying ‘no’ to invitations elsewhere and one evening a week is Date Night for mom and dad -- even if it means staying at home and putting the children to bed early.

Lastly and most importantly, I have allowed myself to dream (or shall I say I have been given a vision?) and I’ve made all decisions in light of it, even when ridiculed. This has required the development of a thick skin. But history has shown us that anyone who blazed their own trail, who heard the beat of a different drummer and who challenged the status quo, faced similar obstacles --- They also changed the world.

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15 comments:

Stacy(Aussie in America) said...

Hi Linda,
I wanted to stop by and say hello! Your blog looks really nice.
Hope you have a lovely Christmas.
Stacy

Rebeca said...

I keep up a blogspot blog too- I was on it before I cam to HSBlogger. So I'll be happy to come read you here! Blessings,
Rebeca

Dana said...

I am so glad to know where you moved to.
I would surely miss reading your blog if you disappeared. As I have said before, you make me think and rethink how I educate, my kids and I enjoy when you share your life in Turkey, and your time in the trenches has wisdom I have yet to know.
So thanks!
And regarding your comment - I truly do enjoy my boy's. But after them, having this girl makes me feel like a first time Mom, the difference, though obvious is still amazing.

Anonymous said...

I am so looking forward to hearing your thoughts on CM when you come back again. I hope your Christmas is joyous.

ChristyH

PeakmoreAcademy said...

i loved this post!!! I think I'll print it up for my own rereading as necessary. very nice. thank you!

Renee said...

I just want you to know how appreciative I am of your blog and insight to CM! We are entering our 2nd-ish year of CM and I will never look again for another way to homeschool. I pray the Lord gives you GRACE to bring Christmas to your corner of the world. Thank you for the time you put into your blog *ministry* because that is truely what it is!! I want to be like you when I grow up;)

Merry Christmas!
Renee

lindafay said...

Thanks so much for all the gracious comments.

I will just be reposting old posts from my other blog throughout the month of January. Maybe some of them will be new to you if you haven't read all my archives.
I won't be visiting blogs or commenting until January.

Have a blessed Christimas, Stacy, Rebeca, Dana, Christy, PeakmoreAcademy, and Renee!

Anonymous said...

July 1, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by CreativeHomeschooling

I like your top ten!!! I am struggling with the getting up early. I find myself staying up late most nights. I like the quiet time for an hour. You had a lot of good tips. Also, I too totally believe in having a vision/dream. Dh and I even write our down and put it in our room. I have to say that somethings we went out on a limb as far as shooting for the stars have happened! God always gave people a vision to set their sights on before the thing happened...even if it came to pass years later. Thanks for the wonderful post.

Jennie von Eggers
www.TimesTales.com
www.CreativeHomeschooling.com

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July 1, 2006 - Amen!

Posted by HarmonyArtMom

I am on the same path that you are.

I love my early morning time because I am an early riser. This is my quiet time to read and meditate. I feel so much more energized for the day when I have those few moments with our Creator. I also have something to share with the children when they arise. I will share a scriptural thought with them to start their day.

I also put family dinner high on the list of priorities. I love sharing the preparation time with the children too. We really get time for some good conversations.

My bedtime is my husband's bedtime, even if I just crawl in and read while he is drifting off to sleep. I love that connection at that time of day. My boys don't own any electronic games because I want them to spend time outside with the fresh air. They sometimes don't know what they want to do outside but once they get going, it's hard to bring them back in.

Thank you for your refreshing post, it's nice to find a kindred spirit.

Barb
http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/harmonyfinearts

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July 1, 2006 - Mostly on track

Posted by tracidee

I am doing most of those things. My girls still take naps. But when they outgrow them, the quiet time will be a good thing.

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July 1, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Rebeca

That's a good list- we do some of those things too, and others I'm wanting to work towards!
How is your husband doing?
Blessings,
Rebeca

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July 1, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by carrotqueen

That is a great list! Thank you!

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July 2, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Andrea

What a wonderful post. Like others that have commented, some of these I do and some I'm working toward. The early mornings for me are soooooo very difficult but I have committed it to prayer and have been working hard on it. It sure does make a difference! Thanks for sharing these.

http://www.xanga.com/Andria35

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July 2, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Rhonda

What a wonderful list. I've really been taking a serious look at my goals for homeschooling and these fit right in. Thank you for sharing.

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July 2, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by trustingdaily

Hi....loved reading this post. We, too, do many of these similar things. One of the best, refreshing and consistent things we've done since toddlerhood is to have a quiet time. My children, now 10, 9, & 3, expect and anticipate their quiet time. I recommend it for every mother on the planet!

Blessings to you, Angela

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July 2, 2006 - me too!

Posted by glad2bheld

< Every afternoon I have one hour to myself. No interruptions allowed (unless a child is bleeding to death!). My children are required to be on their beds at this time reading or writing what they wish, but no noise allowed. We’ve done this since they were toddlers and call it Quiet time. >

Oh my gosh, I could have written this! I don't know anyone else who has a "quiet time" but we've been doing this since the beginning-over 10 years. When the children were younger it was "nap time" but since they all outgrew naps it has been "quiet time". I guard mine like a miser! With five children I really need that time to myself.
I agree with the poster who said every mother on the planet should require this! I plan to have it all the way through the teen years!



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July 2, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Canadagirl

All of these are great but I really like how you mentioned ...

Lastly and most importantly, I have allowed myself to dream (or shall I say I have been given a vision?) and I’ve made all decisions in light of it, even when ridiculed.

I really appreciate this one. I have been here and done that. I have had to toughen up and listen to God and not others. To live the calling when it doesn't make sense to anyone else around me.

Thank you for living out the life you do and sharing what you do and know. You put all that I understand so elegantly. I love redirecting people to your site. May God bless you and keep you...

In Him,
-Canadagirl

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July 2, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by anewcreation

I would be interested in knowing some of the things you all do for your Family Fun Night. Are these evenings spent at home or are they an outing? thanks!

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July 3, 2006 - We have a lot in common

Posted by amada

This list is inspiring - as it gives me encouragement in the fact that what we're doing in our family actually sounds good on paper! (this may not make sense to you... it makes perfect sense in my mind, but I tend to be somewhat abstract) Your list sounds very noble, and it is what we do too! ... and I mean exactly! With exception to #5, I don't always have an even number of four books on my bedstand... sometimes 2 or sometimes 6! And #6 is something we've pinpointed as important in our family too, although I definitely need to improve in this area lately... I say pregnancy is my excuse for grumpiness, but really it's not a worthy excuse at all.
Anyway, I was encouaraged and thought I'd let ya know...
Amy
Cajamarca, Peru

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July 3, 2006 - I always enjoy reading these!

Posted by mamma1420

Thank you for allowing those of us that are just starting a little insight into your wisdom!
Blessings,
Jessica

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July 3, 2006 - 10 Habits

Posted by

I love your habits list. Most of these we've done at one time or another, but some have slipped by the wayside. This gives me encouragement to try again.

Blessings!

Kerri

Edited by titus2v5woman on July 2, 2006 at 6:43 PM

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July 3, 2006 - I'm thankful for you, Linda!

Posted by MmeLabonte

I'm learning that healthy habits are the secret to family harmony and happiness - especially mother's habits! We're working on "routine" right now.
I've been praying for your husband.
Have a happy day!
Natasha

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July 3, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by lindafay

I see that I am preaching to the choir. Great comments! Striving towards excellence is a GOOD thing, isn't it. Whenever I let things fall by the wayside, the whole family feels it. I do want to add that I feel it is okay if mom takes the day off sometimes when she needs it. I have been known to sleep in and drink coffee in bed while reading. Of course, this is only about three or four times a year. I think sometimes mothers can be just a wee bit lazy. I have been. Subdoing our flesh is crucial to our own happiness as well as our children's.

Jenni,e I appreciate your honesty. 1/2 the battle is won when we become honest with ourselves.

anewcreation, in answer to your question, I plan to make a post about our family fun nights soon. The ladies over at GIRL TALK have a nice post with some family fun night ideas.

rebeca, my husband's pain has subsided and he is now able to sleep at night. Thanks for asking and

thank you everyone for your continued prayers. You are amazing! Truly! I love the kinship of believers who feel the same blood running through our veins and are able to pray and empathize with one another although we have never met. I really do look forward to meeting all of you one day.

higher up and further in,
linda

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July 4, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by reformingmama

What a wonderful post! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. As a young mother (and not yet homeschooling), I am learning from you and others like you.
Thank you,
Stacy

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July 4, 2006 - Yes!

Posted by CelticMom

I too have been giving serious consideration lately to being much more consistent with our habits. Mine aren't anything to brag about, but we are trying to change that. I have two sons, ages 12 and 8, and it's a bit difficult at times to be so consistent with them when I'm not consistent with me, lol!! We were going to begin the first term of our next year next week, but I'm reconsidering and wondering if working on habits for the next two weeks would be a better use of our time. Anyway, thank you so much for this list; I've marked it and will come back and thoroughly go through it when I have more time.

This is my first time at your blog, and I truly enjoy it! Being new to blogging, I see so many great sites to aspire to!! Thanks!

Shani

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July 4, 2006 - Nice.

Posted by hrlabonte

I loved this post. :)

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July 6, 2006 - I love this.

Posted by ThreeLittleLadies

Thanks for sharing this. I really appreciate you opening up these things for us. It is so good to hear that I'm not alone.

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July 6, 2006 - Thanks a bunch!

Posted by servingtheKingofkings

Wow...you and I think so much alike. Almost scary :)! Thanks so much for sharing your invaluable insight!

Happy Birthday!!! Hope you have a wonderful, relaxing birthday! May the Lord richly bless you as you faithfully follow and honor Him!

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November 13, 2006 - Oh GREAT!!

Posted by momatpeace

I like this idea of developing habits. I've learned a few new ones... got some of them covered already.

Thank you for sharing.

Once again -- I've left this blog having learned something new. Ü

Jennifer

Betty said...

Still reading! I've been checking out some of your older posts while I wait for dh to come home from an unexpected trip out of town. This one is great! I'd love to hear your vision and why that's made you swim against the current! I need thicker skin, but not necessarily for any vision I have but for the everyday barrage of comments and "advice" I get from others. I'd rather develop a thick skin for a more noble, exciting reason! So, if you can, please share your dream/vision.

Blessings for a good morning for you (and good evening to me!)
Betty

Jana said...

This was my first visit to your blog. Found it through a link from Enjoy the Journey. Anyway, I LOVE this post. I agree with all of them, follow most of them (still struggling with numbers 9 and 10). It's a nice reminder! Thanks!h

Tracy said...

Hi Lindafay,

Your comment, " We also sharply limit unattended playtime with other children," is something I've been wrestling with lately. Can you comment, expound, explain on how you do this, and maybe give some encouragement that this is a wise choice for our children?

Thank you,

Tracy

lindafay said...

Hi Tracy,
I'll mull your question over and try to write up a little post with my thoughts about this in the near future. Okay?

titus2woman said...

I'm so impressed with how you moved your HSB comments over~when I moved to WordPress I lost mine, and they meant sooo much to me! ESPECIALLY when everyone was waiting for Hazel to be born, andshe was late!

Anyway, I know this is an old post, but I am rediscovering your wisdom. ~smile~ I've missed you and again am SO GLAD to find ya again! I have a Q about outside play. We live in the inner city, and I don't let my children out front without an adult. Our backyard is kinda small, but it would still suffice. What does this time outside look like? Are you out there too, or is it that they are outside doing what kids do on their own? *THANKING YOU!* (((((HUGS))))) sandi

lindafay said...

Hi Sandi,
I understand where you are coming from. We have lived in some pretty rough places and my children were not allowed to play in the front yard either. Sometimes, all we had was a balcony. They played there and we took walks together and went to the park. In those days we couldn't go out for two hours. I talk about our outside times in this post:
http://higherupandfurtherin.blogspot.com/2006/12/value-of-nature-study.html

When we did get a small backyard, I always went out with my little ones because they needed watching. I'd take a book or sewing project and often snacks and a blanket but when they got a little older, they played in the back, often without me. I perched near a window where I could check on them. However, at least once a week, I was outside with the children having a nature walk. On other days we had picnics and games. We often had schooltime on blankets in the back yard.

I don't always interact with the children, but shoo them away so that they will learn to play, but when they were little they especially needed me to get them started on an imaginative idea. I think that 'city kids' need more help getting the imagination going because their scope is limited to a small back yard whereas country kids have many places to roam and play, so the imagination is more easily kindled and nature is abundant. Now that we live in the country all of us are outside 3 to 4 hours a day. We garden together, play games and take care of the many animals we have.

I think I'm beginning to ramble so I better hush.

Warmly,
lindafay

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