For the Imperfect Folks
On Monday, I disobeyed Flylady and did not bless my house.
On Tuesday, we ate supper an hour late because I was blogging.
On Wednesday, I combed the snarls from my daughter’s hair too roughly and brought tears to her eyes.
As you can see, I am a successful person. Yes. That’s right. If you don’t believe me, ask Winston Churchill. He said, “Success is nothing more than going from one failure to another with undiminished enthusiasm.” Oh, how true that is. I am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination. I fail daily. But I just dust off my britches and get back up again, and again, and again…
Another reason for my success is that I aim high. I mean REALLY high. Of course, I will miss the mark, but I will have accomplished much more this way rather than if I didn’t aim high, or not at all. I have a very clear vision of the kind of woman I want to be and the kind of education and training I want my children to experience in our home. I make goals to reach that vision. Then I make plans to reach these goals. It requires time, prayer, research, routines, lists, seeking advice and help from others, among other things. This is another reason why I like Charlotte Mason.
I need to back up though, and tell you that when I taught in the public school system I was trained well in the art of dumbing down material to make it ‘palatable’ or ‘understandable’ for the young minds in my charge. By the time my children entered the world stage, I knew just what to do to make learning easy for them. Enter Charlotte Mason…
She said outlandish things like read Pilgrim’s Progress-(the original unabridged one) and the King James Bible to your seven year old. Teach your child the great works of a new artist and composer every month or so. Have them memorize passages, not individual verses, from the Bible and 40 lines from Tennyson or Shakespeare while they’re at it. Don’t forget to add Plutarch to the schedule for showing character sketches of real heroes to your children. Teach a few languages, too. This will be the beginning of a wonderful journey that your children will love to embark upon...
This irritated me and intrigued me at the same time. I had become convinced of the benefits my children could receive from such an education, but could they really do these things? and enjoy them? I had to go through a complete paradigm shift in my thinking and then, took the plunge. My children began to blossom in so many areas and I was amazed. My three year old drops his toys now and joins us every time he hears me reading Pilgrim’s Progress to his older sister. He adores this book. My 13 year old is fascinated with Tennyson and quotes whole sections of his poetry just because it speaks to her heart. My 11 year old loves to tell the family at dinnertime about the Travels of Marco Polo because they are so exotic and fantastic. One child is learning to play ‘Fur Elise’ on the keyboard in her spare time just because it is Mom’s favorite piece. My kids love to learn and their books are HARD. Or maybe it is just me. After all, I was public schooled.
Now, I do not have great academic ambitions for these kiddos of mine. I just want them to be “heroes in the strife.” They may never be music virtuosos, or famous writers and poets, and that’s okay with me. But I’m aiming high and teaching them to do the same—in every area of their life. They will miss the mark, no doubt, many times, but they will have been successful. They will have really lived and I’m doing the same for my own self. Now, excuse me, while I get my successful self out of my robe and slippers before lunch time.




May 25, 2006 - Well said...
ReplyDeletePosted by FaithfulGrace
I wish there was a way to type applause.
Very well said. I especially like the part about not living in our failures, but pushing on.
I would like to reference your post in my next entry. I hope you don't mind.
I conclude with Paul's words..
1 Corinthians 9:24 Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may win.
Wishing you a blessed day,
Linda
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May 25, 2006 - This was great!
Posted by PreschoolersandPeace
Thanks for posting it... the failures you've experienced this week, the encouragement to aim high, the neat things your children are doing... I appreciated every bit of it!
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May 25, 2006 - Thank You
Posted by AmoScribo
That was a great post. Now I can feel alright about feeling like a failure in so many ways. I will remember Churchill's quote.
You and your daughters are an inspiration for me about possibilities.
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May 25, 2006 - Thank You
Posted by Astreil
Your blog is so encouraging. Thanks for posting such informative, informational and inspirational words.
Astreil
http://www.astreil.com
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May 25, 2006 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Titus2woman
I like your definition of success, because then I'm a success too! LOL! LOVED this post! (((((HUGS))))) sandi
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May 25, 2006 - Untitled Comment
Posted by lindafay
I'm so glad you all are encouraged by this post. That is why I wrote it. I make it a practice to pray for guidance before writing and have really felt the urge lately to talk about our failures.
Faithful Grace, I would be honored if you referenced this one. I love the verse you mentioned. I always tell people I know that when I get to see the King's face, I want Him to say I was His favorite! Arrogant thinking? I don't think so. Ambitious? Absolutely. Impossible? With His grace, all things are possible.
with all of you on this amazing journey,
linda
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May 25, 2006 - Because of posts like these...
Posted by ThreeLittleLadies
I keep coming back to your site. Again I am inspired and encouraged. Can my seven year old actually get beyond picture books and enjoy them too?!! I too would like to use part of this post in my next blog (of course I will give you credit!) I want other moms to be encouraged too (although I don't have that great of a following), and I also want it on my blog so that I can go back to it as a reminder again in the future. Thanks for taking the time.
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May 25, 2006 - Untitled Comment
Posted by humpty
I will ditto threelittleladies comment about posting it on my blog for easy reference for myself. You know I am your greatest fan. I love that you are disciplined and thoughtful enough to actually "think" about what you blog on to inspire. My style is usually by-the-seat-of-my-pants and off-the-top-of-my-head. I did just realise what "save as draft" meant. DUH! Maybe I will use it more to check what I say. Maybe not. :(
I also love that you are not perfect although I still aspire to your disipline.
Liz
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May 25, 2006 - Humpty sent me over
Posted by ktneis
I see why she enjoys your blog. I need to hear what you write so I will be checking in often. Thank you for the inspirations you give us, I always have room for improvement even though I am a success.
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May 26, 2006 - Untitled Comment
Posted by trinaleah
I really enjoyed reading your blog today. Very interesting. Certainly makes me think. Good food for thought. Thanks for visiting my blog as well.
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May 26, 2006 - Untitled Comment
Posted by Canadagirl
I remember as a teen and my Youth Director said " If you aim for the stars at least you won't get a handful of mud" . I agree in the idea to aim high and we will do a many great things in life. Do we have to be number one? No, but we are to do our best in everything we do for our Lord. I know there is a verse but I can't remember where.
In Him,
Canadagirl
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May 26, 2006 - Thank you!
Posted by mamma1420
That was truly wonderful and inspiring. You make me want to go out and buy Pilgrim's Progress! What you said is true, we have to aim high. As long as you hit a mark somewhere between where you are and your highest aspired goal, you'll be progressing.
As far as our children, they will follow your lead. What goals you set will be what they aim for. I'm so grateful that the Lord put it on my heart to homeschool now instead of later. DD is turning 6 in July and is a ps kindergarten graduate and I have a "delightful" 2 yr. old boy.
Today is a busy day, I've got to get going...Jessica
p.s. I linked to your perfect execution entry.
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May 30, 2006 - Wonderful!
Posted by JacqueDixonSoulRestES
I so enjoyed reading this and learning more about you.
For some reason, I feel like we know you!
I am in agreement... aim high, and you may fail, but, OH the accomplishments you will achieve!
It is a shame about having to dumb-down things, instead of teaching children as they can learn and training their minds. They are able to learn so much more, if we let them go in the way God created them.
We are pretty eclectic- and I guess, we are somewhat of unschoolers, by what the TOS article said...But, I do love Charlotte Mason and her ideals and love for children.
We also love Pilgrim's Progress. We have 2 videos of it, too, one is animated.
It doesn't always rank up there with LOTR, but, we could watch it over and over!
I do enjoy reading your blog, Linda, thanks.
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Jacque
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June 20, 2006 - Wow...
Posted by hrlabonte
I am *loving* your blog.
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June 23, 2006 - Just what I needed to read today!
Posted by sunydazy
Better to aim high and miss the mark than not to aim at all!
Thank you for writing this...I too, would like to reference this on my blog... I'll have a link to you also.
I have been battling a bit of discouragement about not meeting goals, parenting mistakes, etc... I say 'battling' because I refuse to give in to depression! I am going to meditate on your post today.
Thanks again!
Sunydazy @ La Kooka Rancha
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Hi, Lindafaye :) I was reading through some of your older posts tonight and came across this one. Good stuff. I was just talking to a friend last night about whether or not to give my just-turned-three-year-old something specific to do (roomtime, blankie time with leogs)while I read to her sisters or whether I should have her listen to the reading. I literally said something like, "But these books are HARD books. I mean, should she have to sit still for Pilgrim's Progress???" Eventually, I came to the conclusion (with my dear friend's help) that I could always *let* her listen if she shows an interest and I should *not* assume that her interest will not be there. I had to chuckle when I read the part about your 3yo and Pilgrim's Progress! I really enjoyed this post :)
ReplyDeleteLinda, I am so moved and my body shivers while reading this post. It's such an encouragement for a new-to-homeschooling-and-CM mom who lives in non-English speaking country like me. Sometimes I'm just lost, where I should go after choosing this path. I will visit often to read again and again this piece of your thought.
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Ellen
Ellen, your email prompted me to read my own article again and even I was encouraged! It's good to be reminded that failure is not fatal, isn't it?
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